The Wisdom Table

I always joke that I'm enthused about life. Sincerely enthused. But if I'm honest, life doesn't stay in one mood. It moves in phases. And I've come to notice that every phase has a shape. There's the phase where everything looks rosy. The phase where you're working so hard and still not seeing results. The phase where your friends are close and life feels full. The phase where money is stable, and the phase right after it, where somehow even "enough" doesn't feel like enough anymore. There's the phase where you wake up to the realization that there's more out there for you. And then there's the phase where life just becomes work  plain, relentless work. This post is about one of those phases. The one where I almost did the two things I've always told myself never to do: give up, and put myself down. I had just moved to a new city. If you have followed my story before, you already know moving is never simple for me. Not because it...

I almost took it as an insult. Someone reached out to me unprompted and said: "You are starving me." My first instinct was to recoil. Had I said something wrong? Had I overstepped? I scanned everything I had recently shared, looking for the offence. Then the next message arrived. "Why stop?" And everything reframed. I had been sharing. Small clips, personal moments, unpolished thoughts from my real life. The kind of content you almost talk yourself out of posting because it feels too ordinary, too unfinished to matter. But it was mattering. To someone. In ways I couldn't see from where I was standing. When I went quiet — even briefly — that person felt it as a real absence. Like a meal being withheld. "You are starving me" wasn't criticism. It wasn't aggression. It was a request. Keep going. Most of us don't stop sharing because we've run out of things to say. We stop because we assume nobody is paying attention. We stop because we'...

It is really not about you. Plain truth.  To have something build beyond you, you have to think of more. Many of us are drown in the thought of personal establishment , forgetting that for something to trans-generate , to produce fruit, you have to think of the branches. I often think of a tree. A tree doesn't live for itself. It has a mind, a purpose - its branches need it to blossom. The tree's fulfillment is in nourishing its limbs, in seeing them grow and produce fruit. And you know what? A tree is most protected from external forces when it's carrying out its functions. When it's rooted, grounded, and giving life to its branches. A branch can't produce fruit if it's not getting nourishment from the tree's source. It's the same with us. We grow exponentially when we think of more. We blossom because we're enough for others, because we're fulfilling a purpose , contributing to systems that need us. The truth is, it's really not about you...

The beauty of growth lies in the moments of realization that shift our perspective. Looking back, if I'd scrutinized the 'why' behind my achievements.  A true test of growth is examining the intentions driving your projects. We often get lost in the pursuit of popularity and influence, forgetting the core reasons that fuel our passions. Many fall short because their motivation wades when faced with challenges. It's easy to get caught up in the noise and lose sight of what truly matters. Recently, I spoke with a solid builder who reminded me that true builders construct with intention. They don't just build structures; they build legacies. Take a moment to revisit your vision board and restructure your approach.  What are the core reasons behind your goals?  What drives you?  What fuels your passion? Reignite your drive and pursue your goals with renewed purpose. Go back to the drawing board of your visions and begin to restructure. Identify the areas where you'v...

The human mind is a magnificent thing - it's a powerhouse waiting to be harnessed. It can be redirected, rechanneled, focused, disturbed, solo, or collaborative. The question is, how do we tap into its potential? I recall a personal experience that illustrates this point. I once traveled to a state for an assignment and took the opportunity to visit friends who shared an apartment with two rooms. One room was aesthetically arranged, while the other was neatly arranged, but plain. Both rooms were tidy, yet I found myself gravitating towards the plain room, avoiding the aesthetically arranged one. Why? My mind felt out of place in the more beautiful room; I felt like I would disrupt its order, like I didn't belong there. It's striking how this incident reveals the state of our own inner world. We often declare grand ambitions - 'I sit before kings, I am made for more' - but our daily choices betray our true beliefs. The truth begins with the little things we do, or do...

 One of the most underrated advice you might never get is to 'Stop asking'.  We've all been there - stuck at a given task or assignment, hesitant to take the next step, all because of an innocent question that throws us off track. Sometimes, we ask questions seeking honest opinions or valid reasoning, but more often than not, it doesn't achieve the purpose at heart. Let me share a personal story. I had a vision that seemed daunting, even scary, given my limited view at the time. I decided to share it with someone, asking, "What do you think about it?" The response was a game-changer, altering my perspective and propelling me forward. But here's the thing - sometimes, the response you get is not what you need; what you need is to motivate yourself. The truth is, you're not always asking the right people. You're seeking validation, seeking permission, or seeking a way out. But what you really need is a strong mental picture that keeps you standing, t...